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Tips To Keep Your Relationship Strong

In today’s world, where everything is throw away, do we know how to keep relationships strong?


Tips to keep your relationship strong

How do we keep relationships strong once we are married?

Too often, when a couple gets married, or they move in together, we assume that that’s them set in their life together. But this is only the start of building long and strong relationships.

In today’s world, where everything is throw away, do we know how to keep relationships strong?

The secret to a strong and happy relationship means different things to different people.

But there are quite a few things we can ALL do to keep our relationships strong and happy.

These tips to keep a relationship strong aren’t difficult. They all make sense. Sometimes, putting them into practice takes a bit of time, and even patience, from both parties.

Making our relationships, our Number 1 priority is important.

Too often, we are balancing life, work, and family, and our relationship with our partner gets pushed to the bottom of the pile.

We need to remember to keep it our number one priority.  The secret is to keep laughing, romancing and look forward to exploring things together, as a couple and as a family.


Keep Talking

Communication plays a large part in keeping relationships rock-solid and happy.

However, often we hit bumps in the road, and it can be hard to communicate. So the aim is to make sure that we are talking from the word go.

If we try to remember relationships are about “us,” not me or you, you are a team now; it can make a huge difference. Anything affecting a relationship should be discussed together, As A-Team.

Take the time to discuss important matters to both of you, whether they are individual aspirations, joint plans, or problems.

Sitting down together regularly and reviewing how things have been for each other, “do you need help with something”? Is there anything you need to get off your chest?

From the beginning, we need to be honest about how we are feeling and what our needs are and communicate them lovingly.

And I would say one of the best tips to keep your relationship strong is your communication skills.

  • Talk about good and bad things.
  • Be honest,
  • be faithful,
  • be there for one another. 
  • Make Time for each other.
  • Leave the past in the past. 
  • know you won’t always be happy
  • don’t expect change
  • become best friends
  • love each other unconditionally


Avoid mind-reading

We can all do this one.

Let me clarify what mind reading in a relationship is.

This is when we assume what the other person is thinking or feeling, how they will respond and react to something.

We can often develop negative feelings towards them based on these assumptions.

Mind-reading is the death of many a relationship.

How many times have you gone off on a tangent in your head when something your partner does or says is out of character for them. Of you go thinking the worst. And when you finally ask them what the problem was, it turned out to be something completely different.

Be brave and ask them what the matter is. What do we need to do?

It is vital in any relationship that you can express negatively and positively and always done with respect. Being honest with each other will enable you to find a solution to the problem as a team.

Using the right vocabulary in expressing feelings is essential too. You don’t want to be known as Moaning Minnie all the time. Using the right language can open up conversations to achieve the correct result for everyone a lot easier.

We also need to learn to listen to concerns without being defensive.


bonfire on a beach tips to keep your relationship strong

Be Patient

Learning to be patient in a relationship takes patience and practice, funnily enough.

This is another one of the tips on keeping a relationship strong that takes a long time to learn sometimes.

According to a popular cliché, love makes the world go round. But in a relationship, loving alone won’t keep it alive, but patience too.

You may be madly in love with each other, but if you’re not patient, then you won’t be able to strengthen your relationship and make it for the long term.

Are you practising your patience skills in a relationship?

Like strong relationships themselves, patience is the work of a lifetime.


Accept the flaws.

When we first get together, we consider our partner to be the best thing since sliced bread, but low and behold; it’s not too long until we spot the flaws.

Remember, nobody’s perfect, and your partner is no exception.

Of course, they have flaws, we all do,  but those are part of who they are.

Does your partner have habits that annoy you? Do they need to change those habits? Or do you need to learn a bit of patience accepting it as part of them?

If the habit annoys you so much, talk to your partner about how it makes you feel. I’m sure if they can, they will change.

What about when there is an argument? We need our patience skills here too. Using your patience means it allows you to think before you speak and before you react.

Take a few minutes before you reply, is your partner hurting, angry or frustrated? They could be just trying to get things off their chest. If we don’t practice patience, we can react in the same way making our argument a lot more serious than it might be.

Everyone is entitled to have their say in an argument, so practising patience allows each person to air their opinion. Meaning the argument can be discussed fully and more likely to reach a solution that both parties can deal with.

With these tips to keep your relationship strong, I might find this one difficult sometimes.


Remember to date

Why should you continue to date your partner?

By continuing to date, you are letting each other know that your life together is a priority. It also helps to keep the relationship healthy and keeps that loving feeling alive.

The hard work isn’t over once you’re living together. This is just the beginning of keeping a relationship healthy and strong.

Don’t let routine set in and allow romance to take a back seat to the bills and chores. It should be a permanent fixture in the lives of every loving relationship.

Set aside date nights every week or month. Go out to your favourite restaurant, or even try a new hobby together.

Dating often helps to remind us that she or he is your favourite person in the whole world.

Leave your phone at home; take some time out to tune into your partner. Communicating is another biggie in a relationship, and having your date nights can help with that.
Once the kids come along, it’s a bit more difficult to get out so often.

If you don’t have family close by, why not draft in another couple in the same situation, and babysit for each other.

That way you all get to keep date nights.

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Keep your sense of humour.

A sense of humour is an attractive trait in a person and could be what attracted you to your partner in the first place.

Research shows that couples generally share a similar sense of humour.
When you laugh together, you create a positive bond between you. This bond acts as a strong shield against stress, disagreements, disappointments, and bad patches in a relationship.

Most situations aren’t as bleak as they appear. Humour can help you consider problems in a different way that might otherwise seem overwhelming and damage a relationship. It’s not about cracking inappropriate jokes, more about lightening the atmosphere.

I find tension difficult to deal with, so I always tend to bring humour into the conversation; it certainly lightens things up a bit, and the argument seems trivial after you have a bit of a laugh about it.

Keeping your sense of humour throughout a relationship can be hard at times, but boy does it help.


Ask for help

If you have ever read, Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus, you will know the difference in the sexes when it comes to asking for help. And having experienced this throughout my years, I have to agree that the majority of times in my household, this is how it works.

When women communicate, it is usually with their emotions first, and the problem is second. When a man communicates, he comes from a place of “How can I fix it?

How many times do we expect our partner to know what we need? Remember, no one can mind read.

It’s sometimes difficult to ask for something, but it’s also kinda cute. I know my partner likes me to ask for help. I am much better at it now than I used to be. It’s something an independent woman has to re-learn.

Before you can get what you want from your mate, you must first know what it is that YOU want. Maybe your partner is doing everything they think you like, but you’re not satisfied because you haven’t fully identified what you want for yourself. Also, how we communicate and understand what a person means when they say certain things can determine if we will receive anything.


Celebrate the small joys

Celebrations aren’t just for the big things in life; if we learn to celebrate the small things together, we have a lot going for the relationship.

Things like,

  • the flowers your partner sends as a surprise,
  • the lovely meal cooked for you.
  • The surprise text you get saying I love you when you were least expecting it.

They are all small things that we should be celebrating.


The hardest word in a relationship

That will be Sorry.

This one a biggie and takes a lot of courage sometimes to say it.

We aren’t all good at it, but what a difference it makes to your relationship when you can admit you were wrong and say sorry.

It’s a small word that can make such a difference in life, never mind a relationship.

So don’t be scared to be the one to say it first.

People all have different views on ways to have a happy and strong relationship. Each couple finds their own ways of making their relationships work, but knowing that it does take some work to make it strong and happy is the crux of the matter.

Expecting our relationship to survive all that life throws at us today, with no work, is like burying your head in the sand. Hopefully, my tips will give you some homework to help keep your relationship strong and happy.

Always be friends, and remember you get to do life with this amazing person by your side.

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