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What To Do After You Get Engaged

 Firstly, huge congratulations! You just got engaged to your favourite person! Now what do you do?


What To Do After You Get Engaged.

Did you get engaged recently?  How did it go? Wondering what to do now that you’re engaged?

Bet your heads racing now with what to do first.  Let’s talk about what to do when you get engaged but aren’t ready to start committing to vendors just yet.


Take Some Couple Time.

Among the things to do when you get engaged, this one has to be one of the most important.

Did you take a few days to yourself before you announced it to everyone? Or were you shouting it from the rooftops?

It’s an exciting time for a couple, and quite rightly, you want everyone to know about it, but have you stopped to catch your breath yet?

What about stepping back a little bit now and take some time to be happy together, in your own little bubble.

When you say yes, that’s an extraordinary moment; take the time to reflect on the lead up to it, how you felt when they proposed, and how you feel now; I bet it’s giddy.

Slow yourself down for a little bit, pop some champagne, and plan a special meal to celebrate it together.

There is plenty of time to get to the wedding planning, enjoy what you feel right now together.


Looking After The Ring

Does the ring fit properly, or do you need to get it made perfect for your finger?

Perhaps you get a “fake ring” and need to go out and pick your ring now, OMG that will be so exciting.

I helped my son pick his ring for his girlfriend; it was a lovely mother-son moment; she had no idea the proposal was coming.

Sometimes it takes a couple of weeks to get the ring sized correctly; you might not be able to do that just now with lockdowns, but be careful wearing it until then, especially if it’s far too big; you don’t want to lose it.

And what about insurance for your ring? Have you looked into that yet?

Insurance is something you should consider and gives you peace of mind if anything happens to your ring.

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Your Peeps

While chilling together on an evening or weekend, you could start thinking about who you want to be in your wedding party.

You don’t have to tell or ask anyone yet; get your thoughts together for now.

You probably already know who you want to take up those important spots anyway, but best check them out with each other.

Get the plan together and decide when your going to ask them. Your gonna need your peeps alongside you to help you start planning the wedding.

Think Budget

This one’s a biggie.

You can’t plan any of your wedding if you don’t know how much money you have to spend.

Start by finding out if any of the family would like to contribute and then add any savings. Also, take into account how much you can realistically save each month to add to your kitty.

Set yourself up a little spreadsheet to track it all. It just needs something simple right now until you start planning properly.

Choosing The Date

When’s the big day?⁠

⁠Once you announce your engagement, many people will ask you, “have you picked a date yet” but don’t let this hurry you.⁠

⁠You don’t have to have the date fixed the minute you get engaged.⁠

⁠During your engagement bubble time, why not consider some dates that are suitable for you both. ⁠

⁠Check-in with each other about how long you think your engagement should last? Are you on the same wavelength with that?⁠

⁠Is there a particular date that you would like to get married on, like a big birthday? ⁠

⁠That date could be two years away, which gives you plenty of time to sort things out and get your budget together. Check out my budget-setting blog here. 

⁠As long as you both agree on the wedding date, that’s all that matters; everyone else can wait until you’re ready to announce it.⁠

Wedding Inspiration

This has to be my favourite bit, I think. Finding inspiration for your wedding,  because Pinterest has to be the best tool out there for that.

You can do this sitting at home, together or on your own; you can share boards with your wedding party too, but be careful you don’t lose a couple of days of your life delving into Pinterest.

The board’s idea is that you can gather all the ideas you like in one place; many years ago, couples would use scrapbooks. Holding everything in one place is much handier, and there is so much inspiration on there.

Once you start collating boards, you can then narrow down what you want for the wedding. Then when it comes the time to speak to planners and venues, you have a better idea of what it is you want your wedding to look like

You can check out some of my Pinterest Boards here. 

Happy hunting

Wedding Website

This is something that many couples are doing today.  Is that something that you are considering?

You could get that set up in the background—no need to tell anyone about it yet until you get it ready.

It’s a good tool to use for your wedding, keeps your guests informed; you can put transport options on there, hotel accommodation if anyone needs to stay over, put everything on there, and save all the phone calls to you or your family asking the same questions.

They are dead easy to set up today, and there are lots of tips online on how to do it and what to include.  Is there a “techie” in your family or friends circle that could handle that for you?


There you have it,  a few things that you can be getting on with when you get engaged, but without committing to anything just yet.


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